|How we deal with disagreements in our house...|
When newlyweds or not-yet-weds tell me that they don't ever fight, the first thought that goes through my head is, "Wow, ya'll must never talk about anything either of you really cares about" because if you agree 100% on everything with another person, then one of you is lying.
Jake and I are both very opinionated, passionate, and stubborn individuals. In my case, it's just being steadfast and determined; in his, it's just being bull-headed. Hey, it's my blog, I can color it however I want!
We disagree about a lot of things, eschatology (the end of the world) being one of the more fun ones, and disciplining Aedyn being one of the most recent.
It started 2 days ago, when something happened that neither of us was prepared to handle. Aedyn ran off, in a store, fast, and around enough corners that we couldn't find him. He found us, thankfully, but Jake had Jaron and I completely mishandled the whole situation. (Details maybe in another post.) Jake's response was so far from what I thought was appropriate, that I said that dreaded phrase "We need to talk."
So we did, and because we're opinionated, passionate, and stubborn individuals it became a fight. I had problems with specific issues above and beyond what happened at the store and generalized them to his whole parenting style, he threw everything back on me and talked in circles. You get the picture. Or at least my picture.But after awhile we finally found some common ground, discussed the real issues, and while I'm sure this will not be the last time we have to address discipline styles, we back on the same side.
Fights are good for you. They make you realize what's important. If you care about something, you will fight for it. And if you care about someone you will be honest enough to fight with them.
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