Showing posts with label Co-sleeping. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Co-sleeping. Show all posts

27 February 2012

Why I Do What I Do #1

Last night Aedyn was having a bad dream. Tossing, turning, whimpering, half-crying. Not really awake.

I laid down next to him.

He turned his face towards me, put his hand on my face and was instantly back to a deep peaceful sleep.

I felt like I had super powers.

Co-Sleeping.

That's why I do what I do.

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04 September 2011

Who Needs A Crib?

I never thought it would happen to us. We left on a trip, came back, and the crib was gone.

Ok, maybe it's not so melodramatic as all that, but we are now crib-free and I really never thought that would happen.

A couple months ago I read this post by The Gnome's Mom about how they had just gotten rid of the crib they never used. I thought it was great, for them, but I liked having somewhere to put Jaron when (if) he napped. And at that point we still used his Pack N' Play for occasional naps. Our real crib was and is currently Aedyn's toddler bed and Jaron had outgrown his cradle.

The cradle had been a wonderful and necessary thing because of Aedyn. Aedyn is a thrasher, when Jaron arrived Aedyn started wanting to co-sleep again and of course we let him. I was too nervous to allow Jaron to sleep on the outside side of me and too worried about what Aedyn would do in his sleep for Jaron to sleep on the inside side. Aedyn sleeping on the outside of Jake was never an option, he just wouldn't do it.

For the first few months it worked great with Jaron sleeping in the cradle right next to the bed. I'd bring him into the big bed to nurse and then move him back. Then, around 5 months he began to wake up every 45 minutes or so all night long. After trying just about everything I brought him in bed with us pretty much full time. The waking didn't stop, but it was much less disruptive to just pull up my tank top instead of having to get up and down with him.

We finally figured out that he was reverse cycling because he wasn't nursing enough during the day. While some would see it as early self-weaning, I knew better. I've tried to alter things during the day to help him focus and nurse longer, but in the end, if he needs to nurse all night long, it is what it is.

Aedyn has mostly started sleeping in his bed again, but even if he doesn't, the two of them wallow like little puppies until they're both comfortable and settle back into sleep. Just think of what they'd be missing if Jaron were in a crib!

I still used the PNP for naps for awhile because Jaron needed to be in a separate room to nap and I didn't want him crawling off the edge of the bed if I couldn't get to him the instant he woke up. Then about a month ago, (9 mo old) he learned how to get off the bed on his own. And then he started trying to climb out of the PNP...never succeeded, but was making enough progress for me to realize that it wasn't going to last long.

Still, I wasn't quite ready to give it up. It sat there, filling up with clothes and toys that occasionally I'd clean out. Aedyn would climb in and play in it, but the PNP was never used for sleeping.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I was heading to Tennessee to visit family. I was on the fence about taking the PNP with us since it had already been decided that the boys and I would share a bed. But in the end, my be-prepared OCD kicked in and it made the journey. Then it made the journey back. Now it sits...ummm, somewhere in our house...can't remember where I stashed the thing when we unloaded the car.

Obviously we haven't missed it.

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22 July 2011

Enjoy the Moment In Spite of the Consequences

Everything you do has a consequence, or, in some cases, many consequences. Some good. Some bad. It's part of life, so don't do the crime unless you're willing to do the time.

That was incredibly clear yesterday afternoon, when I got Jaron down for his afternoon nap and found out that Aedyn had decided to put himself down for a nap at the same time. They both woke up after about 20 minutes and in the process of getting Jaron back to sleep, Aedyn cuddled up net to us and dozed off again himself.

It is a very rare thing for me to have time when both boys are sleeping. So instead of waking Aedyn up and dealing with the cranky mess of temper tantrum I knew he would be, I enjoyed the quiet and got a few things done. I knew that the consequence of that decision  would be that he wouldn't be ready to go to bed on time, so I wouldn't have my usual downtime or time to spend folding the mountains of clean laundry sitting around my house (but, hey, at least it's clean!) but I decided to enjoy the moment.

Can't beat the warm fuzzies that filled me up when I looked over and saw this...they both napped better than I've ever seen, I'm wondering about the safety of converting the toddler bed back to a crib and letting Aedyn sleep in there with Jaron all the time. Probably won't happen, but it's an idea...

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