Showing posts with label Breastfeeding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Breastfeeding. Show all posts

08 March 2012

More Than The Obvious ~ What You Need In Order To Breastfeed

Lets be honest, all you need to breastfeed is a breast and a baby. Simple, right?

Maybe not so much. Companies all over are trying to tell you that you need this or that, or that other thing over there. And of course very little of that is cheap.

This week the ladies with the Breastfeeding Blog Hop are talking about tools of the trade. What they needed or found totally useless. So here's my list sorted into children.

Child #1 - Aedyn
Needed - 
  • Lansinoh Lanolin (loved this stuff!)
  • Nursing Basket - in this I kept nursing pads, a notepad and pen, the remote control, my phone, lanolin, a burp cloth, kleenex, snacks, baby fingernail clippers, nasal aspirator.
  • Nursing Cover - Nursing without it was not a possibility with Aedyn
Useless -
  • Breastfeeding pillow - I gained so many cup sizes on top of already being terribly "blessed" that Boppies and the like only supported my breasts and there was no room for Aedyn. Pointless. (Nursing Tips & Positions when you have large breasts)
  • Nursing Bras - At least the typical kind. Once again, because of my size, I couldn't find a nursing bra that fit. Apparently once you pass a 34M then you're an anomaly. A poor fitting bra can cause blocked ducts and mastitis, so I found a well fitting regular bra and put a hook and eye where the cup and strap meet. (DIY Nursing Bra Tutorial)
  • Breastpump - I had an extreme over production of lipase in my milk and couldn't store it for longer than 3 hours (it was so bad that even scalding the milk didn't work).
  • Nursing Pads - Never ever leaked. I will admit they helped keep the lace bra from irritating my nipples, but that was it.
Child #2 - Jaron
Needed - 
  • Nursing Cover - I didn't have to have it this time, but I was a lot more relaxed and comfortable when I was using one.
  • Breastpump - I has massive oversupply this time and had to block feed and pump off some of the milk on the side I wasn't nursing from that day.
  • X-Large Flanges - my breast/nipple size had changed and I needed to upsize the flanges on the pump, the size I was using were causing my nipples to swell and bruise. (Florida WIC has a great diagram on how to tell if your flange fits or is too tight.)
  • Nursing Pads - I leaked all over the place while I was trying to reduce my supply.
  • Disney/Star Wars Movies - to keep my toddler calm and still while I tried to get my highly distractable baby to eat.
Useless
  • Nursing Basket - my toddler wouldn't stay out of it. I started tucking my phone into my bra and that was it.
  • Lanolin - I just didn't need it for my nipples the second time around. However, if you're fingernails/cuticles are dry, this stuff is excellent just for that too!
  • Tips on Taking Care of Your Toddler while Nursing Your Baby - I think Aedyn must've read those articles and decided to mess with my head, none of that stuff worked.
So those are my two lists, ask me again in a year or so and I'm sure #3 will have completely changed things up!

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16 December 2011

Forgive Me La Leche, For I Have Sinned...

Forgive me La Leche, for I have sinned...

I gave both my babies pacifiers starting in the hospital (in all honesty, they didn't use them often or at all past 3 or 6 months old)

I drink caffeine. Everyday.

I let Jaron start solids at 4.5 months. When I found out that Aedyn was sneaking him bites of things like Oreos, Lucky Charms, and Loaded Mashed Potatoes.

I encourage moms to feel okay if the have to supplement, a little breastmilk is better than turning Mom off breastfeeding all together.

I encourage mom to remember that she is part of the "mutual" desire. If she's done, it's ok to gently encourage baby to be done. (That goes for night nursing or weaning altogether.)

If I'm tired or busy, I don't offer, but don't refuse. Not everyday or all the time, but on occasion. Sometimes I just need a break.

I wing it. Every baby is different. Even if I don't follow the "RULES" I know I'm doing what's best for me and my baby.

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This post is part the Breastfeeding Blog Hop hosted by

Life With Levi

The Slacker Mom & Diary Of A Devil Dog Wife


be sure to check out their and others great posts about Breaking Breastfeeding Rules!

09 December 2011

Nursing Stories ~ This Too Shall Pass

Clenching pillows, gritting teeth, nursing a tongue tied baby...this too shall pass.

Sitting with my baby in my lap watching him drift off to sleep as he nurses...this too shall pass.

Crying because I have too much foremilk and it's hurting my baby's tummy...this too shall pass.

Watching my 13 month old squeal with a huge grin and coming running across the room as I lift my shirt...this too shall pass (ok, that might come back in a few years, but not in regard to me...)

Frustration with my baby being distracted and not eating enough...this too shall pass.

Calming every tear with cuddles and Mama's milk...this too shall pass.

Being the only thing my baby needs to survive...this too shall pass.

Being the only one who my baby will let put him to sleep...this too shall pass.

Waking 6 times in 8 hours to night nurse a baby who's reverse cycling...this too shall pass.

Waking to see my baby unlatch and roll over to cuddle into his Papa's arm...this too shall pass.

Holding my breath at each doctor's appointment to see if he's gaining weight...this too shall pass.

Being forced/able to rest every few hours as my newborn and I figure this nursing thing out...this too shall pass.

Watching milk go everywhere as I make my baby laugh while he's nursing...this too shall pass.

Sore nipples, feeling "touched out"...this too shall pass

Memories, relationship, knowing you're doing what's best for your baby...now that will never pass.

Hold on to each wonderful moment, it will go too quickly. Hang in there through each challenge, it won't last forever.


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This was written as a part of the Breastfeeding Blog Hop hosted by Life With LeviThe Slacker Mom& Diary Of A Devil Dog WifeCheck out the other great posts and link up!

17 November 2011

Would You Like Some Cookies With That Breastmilk?

Best Non-Home-Made Cookies Ever!
Thanksgiving is a week away and the day after...well, the cookies, candy, treats, and chaos don't stop until New Years...or Valentine's Day.

I haven't even started thinking about how I'm going to deal with it this year...but I'll probably allow the boys way too many sweets. But they're only kids once, and how can I tell them "no" when I'm sneaking cookies behind their backs? Like everything else, we'll just have to figure out a balance.

While I really enjoy the Christmas season, it is stressful. Not necessarily a bad stress, but a different pace from the rest of our year. With us just having moved the boys have dealt with a lot of stress and change. About the time they get used to the new house, the holidays will be upon us and off we go again.

For Aedyn that means a TON of extra patience and cuddles. And trying to remember that all two-year-olds are just tiny lunatics. (Tonight he flipped out when I asked my dad to drive, then want to guess what happened when I sat down in the driver's seat? Yup, tantrum because T-COM wasn't driving.)

With Jaron I have a secret weapon. Mama Milk. I don't know what I would do if he weren't still nursing. When he's overstimulated from all the shopping or parties or just people. When he just needs some extra cuddle time. When he's cranky and nothing else Pleases him. When he's having a temper tantrum. And as a bonus, nursing him gives me a good excuse to sit down and take a break myself.

I've heard a lot of mention about accidental weaning over the holiday from the stress and business, but I really don't think that will be an issue for us, we'll just serve up Jaron's cookies with a chaser of Mama Milk!

Do you have any tips or ideas about what you'll do over the holiday season with your kids to make the craziness a little less crazy? What do yo serve your Christmas cookies with?

This post is part of the Breastfeeding Blog Hop hosted by Life With Levi, Diary of  a Devil Dog Wife, and The Slacker Mom, read more posts about holiday breastfeeding and link up here!

28 October 2011

When A Lightsaber Is Not Enough

A couple weeks ago I wrote Breastfeeding by Star Wars.

While it's a good description of what often happened, it's not the whole story, sometimes a lightsaber just isn't enough.

Truth is, how Aedyn works into mine and Jaron's nursing relationship has changed and changed and changed again.

At first Aedyn didn't really seem to notice. He'd play and I'd make sure that he had a cup of something to drink.
"Jaron eat me?"

Then for a little while he wanted to nurse again too, but he couldn't remember how to latch, so that was a no go. But he decided that he would "help" and hold my breast for Jaron to nurse from. That was so cute and sweet! But then he started trying to dictate when Jaron was "all done."

Of course phases of "helping" tended to alternate with times where every. time. I. sat. down. to. nurse. Jaron. Aedyn would have a potty training "accident" or would do something else off limits that he never tried or did when I wasn't nursing. It was those times that reminded me to give him a bit more attention during Jaron's naptimes. Fortunately that phase passed with the help of Star Wars and completing potty training.

As Jaron got older and more distractable, I had to change things around a bit. He was too distracted to nurse enough (to few wet diapers) during the day so Aedyn wasn't allowed to be around. Jaron needed to focus. Ultimately that led to the crutch of the electronic babysitters by the name of Disney and George Lucas (Star Wars).

Now Jaron primarily night nurses and is mostly weaned during the day so there's not to much issue. Aedyn sees Jaron nursing for hunger and comfort and on occasion will lift his shirt and try to get Jaron to nurse from him if he thinks Jaron is scared or hungry.

We've had to talk about girls and boys, and who can make milk because of that. I'll be honest, I'm kind of afraid that Jaron will take him up on the offer and then bite because there's nothing there! Can't even imagine what kind of chaos that would cause!
Brothers

Jaron will be 1 in a week (AHHH!) and I'm starting to think about our next baby and how far away that will be. I'm not sure if I will tandem nurse or not. Depends on supply and how Jaron handles the change in taste/consistency. I'm hoping that Aedyn will prove to be a distraction and buddy for Jaron once I'm nursing #3 and that will make the transition and process easier for him.

Or maybe I'll just have to nurse hands free all the time so I can have a lightsaber battle going on both sides of me...

Who knows? Anyone have advice for nursing #3 and keeping a toddler and preschooler occupied at the same time? Share your thoughts here and link up your own posts on nursing #2, #3, or more with the Breastfeeding Blog Hop!

20 October 2011

It's a Good Thing...

...that I didn't schedule this post.

Because the story you would have heard up until 3 days ago is entirely different from the one you would hear today.

Three days ago my almost 1 year-old was only nursing at night. Except for an occasional snack in the mid-afternoon he was completely day-weaned. The fact that his snack was occasional was making me pretty uncomfortable on the days he skipped it, so I tweeted to my #BFCafe ladies for opinions and advice. Should I make an effort to cut out the snack completely or make an effort to have him nurse mid-afternoon every day?

I got the answer I knew what I would get, do what feels right for you. There is no right answer, do what you want to do.

Then yesterday happened. Jaron and I are both down with some sort of allergy thing. Just very runny noses, no infection, just annoyance. And he is NURSING. A LOT.

Soooo. I don't know where we are and I'm not likely to figure it out until he is feeling and breathing better.

Maybe he'll go back to being day weaned, maybe not. Either way he'll still be nursing at night for awhile yet.

My goal with both boys has always been at least 18 months before fully weaning them. So we've got another 6 months to go, at least.

Some days I feel so burnt out by the end of the day I'm just ready to be done now...but I know I'll regret forcing him before he's ready. So we'll keep truckin'.

And this is me, checking in with all the others at the weekly Breastfeeding Blog Hop. How are you doing? Are you just getting started? Finished awhile ago? Somewhere in the middle? Share your story!!

13 October 2011

Does It Take a Village to Breastfeed?

I'm a soloist. Always have been really. I like to do things myself, my own way, in my own time. It may or may not be the "popular" thing but it's me and it's what I do.

SIDENOTE: And I wonder where Aedyn gets it from!?!?!

I am also an information addict. I would be enrolled in some form of class or program all the time if I had the money and enough hours in the day.

So you might guess that I'm not the biggest support group type person. I tend to get frustrated easily with people who have pat or textbook answers to questions and I get impatient trying to hold back all the knowledge and tidbits I've absorbed in all my research, reading, and Googling.

I admit I don't know everything. And honestly, that's why I go to La Leche League. I rarely go with questions because I've killed the internet looking for answers. I go to hear other mom's stories. To pick up on things that might help someone on Twitter or Facebook and conversely things I learn from my tweeps and blogs I pass on in real life.

Maybe that's why it's a support group and not a class. It's not all about learning new things and answering questions (even though that is part of it), it's about being there for each other, hearing stories, venting frustrations, and celebrating successes. Finding strangers who may become friends, smiling faces that are willing to listen and to talk.

Do you need a village then? On a physical level, maybe yes, maybe no. I successfully nursed Aedyn through problems without any sort of group, although I wonder if I had been in a support group it might have gone smoother at the beginning. But emotionally...

Emotionally, I really do think a village is vital. Maybe it's family members, maybe anybody but family members. A general breastfeeding support group, or a La Leche League group. Find someone who helps you feel sane, who reminds you that even though it may be difficult and frustrating, this too shall pass. You'll both be better for it.

Your local hospital may have contact information for Breastfeeding Support Groups in your area. You can visit La Leche League International for a directory of meetings in your area.

Where's your favorite place to get support? Facebook, Twitter, Family, Groups?

This is part of the Breastfeeding Blog Hop hosted by Life with Levi, The Slacker Mom, and Diary of a Devil Dog Wife. Check out some of the other posts in the hop and link up your own!



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29 September 2011

The 24/7 Milk Bar

Those two dreaded words. Night. Weaning. Ugh.
Yes, my clock is multi-colored, if I'm going to see these
numbers, they should be as fun as possible, right?

Some moms get lucky, their little one just starts sleeping through the night and night weans himself.

Lucky them.

In my La Leche League group this past week we were discussing night weaning. There's just no magic formula. It's as normal for a baby to night wean themselves as it is for it to take four months or more.

Aedyn night weaned himself for a couple of months and then reverse cycled at 6 months and night nursed until I initiated night weaning when he was about 11 months old. It took around 2 months all told. We simply replaced each of the 2 or 3 night nursing sessions, one at a time, with cuddling. But even once he stopped nursing at night he still woke up around 5am to come cuddle and sleep in our bed until 8 or 9. (Something even at 2.5 years old, he still does on occasion  most nights.)

Yes, there was crying. Yes, there were long nights. But he wasn't alone crying on those long nights. He kept his bedtime nursing for a couple months after that until, much to my sadness, he completely weaned.

It was a good thing after all, I guess, since I got pregnant again right after that. Of course, I'm pretty sure that I have Aedyn's night weaning to thank for Jaron!

Speaking of Jaron. He'll be 11 months on Monday. He still nurses 3 - 5 times between his bedtime nursing and when he gets up for the day. And I'm ok with that. He's so distractable during the day that he needs his nighttime calories. I did try for awhile to night wean and cut down distractions during the day, but it was miserable for the whole family. As long as Jake's ok with sharing the bed with a 24/7 milk bar, well, I guess that's what we'll do and I won't think about using those two dreaded words for awhile longer.

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*This post is part of the Breastfeeding BlogHop hosted by 
Life With Levi, The Slacker Mom & Diary Of A Devil Dog Wife

16 September 2011

Your Son Wants to Breastfeed?

By now nearly everyone has heard about the Breastmilk Baby. If you fall outside nearly everyone, this is a doll who starts to make sucking movements when held near a sensor in a halter top that a little girl would wear.

Jake and I talked about it briefly when it first made headlines a few months ago. Neither of us had a problem with the doll, but we agree that $80 for a toy just wasn't going to happen in our family. Then I said, "But would you have a problem getting it for Aedyn? (If it wasn't $80)"  He just looked at me.

I get his point. We have boys. Boys either A. Bring the baby to Mama to eat, or B. Give the baby a bottle.

Once they are taught.

Before that they learn by following an example.

Which is why my 22 month old (at the time) asked to hold his newborn brother and then proceeded to pull up his shirt and say "Baby need eat." and why he tried to nurse his Buzz Lightyear doll.

Now that he's starting to understand that Papa doesn't feed the baby, he does things differently.

First he tried to help me undress because "Baby Jaron need eat", and I was asked to let Buzz Lightyear "eat." Then he settled for helping Jaron eat by holding my breast for him. Now he just waits impatiently until Jaron is ready to get down and start playing again.

But my point is, doll or no doll, boy or girl, children are going to emulate what they see their parents do. And yes, I'm proud that my son wants to breastfeed.

Written as a part of the Breastfeeding Blog Hop hosted by Jen at Life With Levi.

12 August 2011

Breaking Down Babywise ~ Part II

Please read Part 1 of Breaking Down Babywise, an intro to the method and the authors. It'll help explain some of the terms I use or reference in this post.
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Babywise and Breastfeeding: Compatible?

It depends. Maybe if you apply some ideas and leave out others, but then, that's not really the Babywise method. As presented in Along the Infant Way, you take it all or you're not really using the method effectively or as intended and can't be promised the same results.

It's my belief, along with the Academy of American Pediatrics (AAP), most pediatricians, all lactation consultants, and nutritionists that a child should be breastfed for at least 1 year. If you have to put them on formula then it's not time to wean! Furthermore, if milk is such a critical part of a 1 year-old's diet as the pediatricians and AAP recommend it to be, then you'd probably do best to keep that oh-so-important milk coming from within the species. At the child's 2 year old appointment, when all of the sudden the Dr is suddenly worried about them drinking too much milk, then you might think about cutting things back and moving on. (This is assuming that mom has the ability to breastfeed.)

That said, tonight I met the first person I have ever known to successfully breastfeed longer than 8 months without using formula supplements and while using the Babywise method. And I know alot of people who use Babywise. Congrats! Thank you tweeps for helping me find her! So there are a few examples out there that it can work. But I think that in making it work moms are treading on some very dangerous ground.

If you use Babywise, you might also want to check the edition of your book, the most current edition is from 2006. This newest edition does cut out some of their stricter rules and deletes some paragraphs entirely, without addressing the disappearances. This worries me in and of itself. If the method is really so great, so effective, and so irrefutably good for family and baby, then why these drastic changes? It would seem that in the face of criticism the Ezzos are much more ready to water things down to sell a few more books than stick by their original statements.

To the point.

I'm just going to work my way through Chapter 4 to begin with. "Facts on Feeding."

Right, facts. In Chapter 4 the Ezzos state that bottles are as good as the breast when it comes to feeding. Well, they get the food to the baby's mouth alright, but it is documented that feeding from the breast is necessary for the proper development of baby's jaw muscles, jaw alignment, and palate formation. So, braces anyone?

It also assumed and implied that breastfeeding is strictly nutritional. Except that a study of basic physiology and hormones shows us otherwise. Breastfeeding is a calming and connecting event. The hormones and pheromones released during breastfeeding give physical and mental benefits to mom and baby. These particular hormones and pheromones reduce stress, promote bonding, and increase milk supply. Yes, just being near your baby and breathing his scent can encourage milk supply. If it were strictly nutritional then why would let down often occur at the very cry of a baby and not always wait until appropriately stimulated by baby at the nipple? Comfort nursing is just as important as nutritional nursing to both baby and mom at emotional and mental levels.

We have now reached a point that I have nearly over-researched. Foremilk and Hindmilk.
Page 67 of Babywise
"...snack  feeding provides baby only a partial meal consisting of the lower calorie foremilk and not the higher calorie hindmilk essential for growth."
Page 43 of Along the Infant Way
"...the lower caloried foremilk that too frequent of feedings produce."

These statements show a basic lack of knowledge about foremilk and hindmilk. These books teach a mom that her baby gets foremilk anytime he starts a new feeding. But that is not always true. Foremilk is not "made." It is the milk that is left in the ducts after the last feeding. The fat in the foremilk has risen back towards the glands and is let down as the glands contract after the baby has started nursing off the leftover, watery milk from the last feeding. The amount of foremilk is largely based on how much storage space the mom has in her breasts. The shorter the time between feedings, the LESS foremilk a mom has and the more fat and calories the baby will get in his meal.

Then we get to supply and demand.
Page 67 of Babywise
"A mother who takes her baby to her breast 12, 15, or 20 times a day will not necessarily produce any more milk than the mom who takes her baby to breast 8 or 9 times a day." 

Even the Ezzos themselves negate this when they instruct a mom struggling with supply to pump between feedings to increase her supply. One of the ways a baby signals to his mother's body that he has grown and needs more milk is to eat more frequently. More nursing sessions = more milk!

Later in Babywise (pg 103), moms with a questionable supply are told to either put the baby on a schedule or supplement with formula. Interesting.

According to the Ezzos there are only 3 "correct" ways to nurse. The cradle hold, the football hold, and side-lying. According to Babywise and Along the Infant Way, anything that varies from these positions will inevitably cause poor latch and result in poor feeding. Ladies, I'm sorry if your breasts are too small or too large for these positions to work for you comfortably, I guess you're just up a creek without a paddle.

Ideally, according to Babywise, your newborn will eat on a 2.5 - 3 hour schedule. It one part of the book they say to be flexible, but in another part they advise to let a 2 month old experience "natural consequences" of not eating enough at the previous meal and instruct the mom to force the baby to wait until the next scheduled feed. They put forth the use of a pacifier to hold off a baby until the next feeding. However, they fail to address that the act of sucking on that pacifier releases hormones in the baby that cause drowsiness. So baby is sleepy and doesn't eat a full meal, but then is forced to wait until the next mealtime by using the same pacifier. A cycle and recipe for dehydration and malnutrition.

When it comes to weaning, early editions of Babywise state "No one can say for sure what age is ideal." Except that actual doctors have determined that at least 1 year, but 2 is ideal according to the World Health Organization. Which is probably why this statement was struck from the 2006 edition.

The Ezzos also encourage moms to listen to their pediatrician's advice over that of any lactation consultant. Because we all know that pediatrician's receive years of training specifically on breastfeeding. (PLEASE read that with the sarcasm it was intended to be read with.) They also imply that you should refrain from telling an LC about the schedule the baby is on until you find that she is in support of the Babywise method; only then are moms encourage to be fully forthcoming about exactly how and when they are feeding their baby.

Some final thoughts.

The AAP has expressed concern over Babywise and the reports they've received connecting the method to dehydration, malnutrition, slow growth, and slow development.  (Here and Here) Remember the Ezzos said to trust your pediatrician over a lactation consultant...

Two quotes from page 213 of Babywise:
"Competent doctors have your best interests in mind."
"More lawsuits against obstetricians and gynecologists today are forcing them to exercise conservative, lower risk treatments."
These two quotes were referring to C-sections and how having one should be seen as a possible and even probably birth outcome; but it reflects a knowledge that doctors will do what they have to to protect themselves and either ignorance or naivete that those same doctors will still have the patients best interest in mind. Ummm, right.

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Monday I'll break down "The Gift of Sleep" that Babywise promises. Find Part III here.

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05 August 2011

And He Needs to Gain More Weight

Just when I thought things were going great we had Jaron's 9 month check-up. He's perfect, which I knew, except that his weight percentile has dropped. Again.

I make my babies Travel Sized
He was born at 8lbs 5oz, I'm sure that was a little inflated due to IV fluids (don't get me started), but not too much. That was around the 68%ile, at 4 weeks he was at the 48%ile, not too bad, 2 months 32%ile still dropping but no one was worried. This was when I started wondering and putting the pieces together about 2 weeks before  his 4 month appt I figured out that I had a Hindmilk/Foremilk Imbalance (story here).

At his 4 month appt he'd dropped from the 30's to the 13%ile. That's when our Dr said something, but when I told him what our issues had been and that I had taken steps to balance things out he was confident that his weight would stabilize by 6 months.

Six months rolled by and it did stabilize somewhat, at the 10%ile, the smallest drop we'd seen. I stopped worrying as much. I fed him as much as he wanted, which wasn't much, but he's getting older, so I chalked it up to that. He's more active, more distracted, more efficient. He would go through phases of loving solids and then refusing all of them, even his favorites and only nursing. It made for some interesting diapers, but I wasn't worried.

Then we had his 9 month appointment yesterday. He's 16lbs 8.5oz. At 9 months, he's not even quite doubled his birth weight. He's <3%ile by one chart and in the 3 - 5%ile on the other. If he were little all over it might be more explainable, but he's 28" long (40%ile).

Fortunately we have a good doctor, his recommendation through all of this has been "Breastfeed more!" So at the end of World Breastfeeding Week I'm trying to get my active 9 month old to nurse more instead of staying the same or starting to wean. Well, at least it gives me an "excuse" for all the critics who think he should be mostly on solids at this point. Doctor's orders!

I got some great advice at #BFCafe Twitter chat last night, so glad his appt was on a Thursday! We'll be working on cutting out distractions, which means occupying Aedyn with a movie in another room. I'm going to try and get him to nurse on both sides every time, maybe the change in position will help him eat more. (A little worried that this might lead back to oversupply and imbalance, but it's a risk I feel I have to take.) I'm also going to offer more frequently during the day and I'm going to stop trying to put him back to sleep at night without nursing. I'm thinking now that it wasn't really a habit, but that he really was needing those feedings. (I wasn't trying terribly hard anyway.)

I'm not quite ready to wake him to feed him at night, but I will if he hasn't stabilized by 12 months. Why do I feel like his nursing style has been the exact opposite of most babies? Sleeping 6 hour night stretches as a newborn and talking about waking him to nurse at 12 months....


But, as if he heard the doctor, he nursed really well all day yesterday after his appointment and was eating anything he could get his hands on...including breaking his way into a bag of Cheetos...

Maybe he just has a height spurt before he packs on a ton of weight and we caught him between the two.

So it's time to nurse again and no distractions means no NAK (nursing at keyboard) for me. Say a prayer and wish me luck!

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04 August 2011

No Going Back: When I Made the Decision to Breastfeed

I was never around breastfeeding women when I was growing up. I never saw it that I remember. The only experience with breastfeeding that I do remember from my childhood was at a public pool for some sort of gathering, it may have been my dad's office party or a church things, who knows?

I was about 8 and was loving playing with my mom's friend's baby. Then she said that she had to take the baby to the dressing room and feed her. I asked "Can I help?" My mom and the lady both looked a little embarrassed and my mom said, "No, she nurses." I asked again, "Can I help?" My mom, "No" and maybe something about only mommy's can nurse and I should have known that.
My newborn doll and Aedyn at 8 weeks

I just remember that I'd never heard the term "nursing" before in that context; and I felt ashamed that I didn't know what it meant. I find it interesting that although I fed my dolls from bottles, I don't remember ever thinking that it was normal. I also remember hiding in my room and breastfeeding them.

Whatever my early childhood involved about breastfeeding I just always thought that it was normal, and I knew that it's what I would do. I wish I could tell you what made me decide to breastfeed, most moms have a reason. But mine is - it's just what you do. (Maybe it's hand in hand with the naivete that had me wondering why my OB would "Do the best he could so I could try another vaginal birth." When I said "There's always next time." while being whisked away for an Emergency C-sec. In my mind, Why would a C-sec preclude me from a vaginal birth the next time? But that's another story.)

But my expectations were tested early. When I was eighteen and completely uncomfortable in my size 30H bra I went in for my first complete physical. Yay, fun...(don't allow the sarcasm to drip off the edge of the screen and soak you...) I was given the option to start the process for a breast reduction. I wanted that reduction so bad! But because they would have to take so much tissue, no one could promise me more than a 50/50 shot at ever being able to breastfeed. There was no more discussion.

And with that, my decision was final. Besides all the reasons that I think are great for breastfeeding, besides the fact that I've never felt right about putting a bottle in my baby's mouth, I made a choice not to take an opportunity to get a reduction that would have been fully covered by insurance. That was it. I was going to breastfeed or die. And I did. Breastfeed, I mean...obviously I'm still here...

Now I look at myself in the mirror, so glad I made the decision that I made. Nothing beats the feeling of feeding your child from your own body. But I look, and I think, 2 more babies, then we're done. Only maybe 8 more years, then I can get rid of these, then I can look normal. But I will have breastfed, and I am proud that I waited. (And then I think, will we really be done at 2 more? What if we adopt a baby and I want to nurse him/her *sigh*)

I love hearing how and when women decided to nurse. What's your story?

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03 August 2011

Wordless Wednesday ~ Formula Giftbags Are Good For...


Hospital Formula Giftbags Are Good For...

Breastpump storage and transportation (Similac)

Transporting a donation of over 200oz of frozen breastmilk
for a baby that might otherwise be taking formula (Enfamil)


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02 August 2011

Pumping to Nurse: Make It Fit

I recently stopped pumping and not because I didn't want the extra milk. I was nursing Jaron and pumping off my oversupply to donate. On the surface it seemed to be working out great. Then Jaron hit a growth spurt and started needing all my milk; I took a break from pumping because he was eating so often I just didn't have the time.

When I stopped using the pump I found out several things. Some of then had crossed my mind, but I had refused to really consider them as issues.

First, I was blaming Jaron for pain caused by the pump. I thought maybe his latch had regressed, or it was that he was nursing more frequently, or that his teeth were rubbing. Some days were better than others, at worst it hurt for him to latch and then continued to hurt for the entire feeding, not nearly as bad as the tongue-tie pain from Aedyn, but it was more than just uncomfortable.

What was really the issue was the the flange was too small. Even though I had ordered the large size, I need the x-large. I didn't want to admit to myself that I was really that big. I didn't want to be at the top of the size offerings. I didn't want to think about what if I get bigger the next pregnancy and there's nothing for me? I've already done that with nursing bras, now almost with regular bras, and the large size was fine for pumping with Aedyn, so there's a precedent.

Second, I never realized how much it stressed me  to try and and make the daily pumping quota I set for myself. I realized that I might have been limiting Jaron so that I would have enough to pump what I wanted to be pumping for the other babies. While completely unintentional I was putting the babies I was pumping for ahead of my own child.

So I decided to stop pumping. I could've ordered new flanges, but my pump's about to give out and I'm on the fence about which pump I want for the next baby, so they might not be needed. But mainly because pumping was what was best for MY baby.

One of the babies is now getting donated milk from another mom that my friend found through Human Milk 4 Human Babies. The other has gone to formula. I'm not thrilled about that, but that's her parents decision. I can't compromise my own baby's health and deprive him of my milk because I'm trying to feed someone else's child. I can't save the world.

There has to be balance. Maybe if Jaron and I had had a good nursing relationship from the beginning I would've maintained that balance a little better, had a better grasp on what he really needed instead of always feeling like I had so much extra. Who knows?

What matters now, is that all of our nursing problems have been solved. He nurses beautifully and eats until he's satisfied. I don't walk around feeling yucky because I'm never empty, and I know that he's getting what he needs now. Not too much foremilk, not too little milk overall. It may have taken us 9 months to get here, but breastfeeding is finally enjoyable, not just tolerable!

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01 August 2011

Nursing Styles

Happy World Breastfeeding Week!

From before I even was pregnant with Jaron, everyone told me that my children were going to be as different from each other as night and day. Siblings always are. Well, I wouldn't say that the boys are that different, but neither are they the same by any stretch of the imagination!

Especially when it came to nursing. All difficulties aside, they couldn't be more different. And even with everything I'd been told to expect, that wasn't mentioned.

Aedyn was my little Dyson vacuum. He had a strong suck reflex from the moment he was born. He'd latch onto anything! Face, shoulder, finger, toys, if anything came within 3 inches of his face he'd be trying to suck on it. He'd  eat, and comfort nurse, comfort nurse and eat. I could feed him anytime, anywhere. If I was leaving to run to the grocery store, I could feed him and he'd be good for at least 3 hours, even if he had only nursed 20 minutes before, he'd always be ready for more. I thought he would never wean and was fully prepared to tandem nurse for awhile. But, when I got pregnant, he just quit. I wasn't thrilled, but it was his decision, so I didn't force the issue.

Jaron, on the other hand, will not do anything before he is ready. If he nursed 20 minutes ago, you can be sure that he won't nurse again until he's ready, and that could be anywhere from 5 minutes to 5 hours. Try and guess when he'll be hungry and you'll be wrong nearly every time. And goodness knows, if you try and delay a session...the whole world will know. At first I thought he wasn't as attached as Aedyn was because he didn't snap up every chance that he was offered. Now I wonder if he might be more so, maybe it's only a phase, or maybe not. We've still got awhile to see how it plays out.

With 2 more planned for sometime in the future I can't help but wonder how each of them will differ from their brothers!

Have you noticed any major differences between your nurslings? Are there any things that you hope future little ones do differently, or that you hope is a family trait?

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It's the End of Summer! Let's Get Things Started!

Ahhh, the topics that are running around in my head...

First, it's World Breastfeeding Week! in honor of that I'm hoping to come up with something new every day and am setting up a page with a list of all my nursing related posts ^ Yes, I'm lazy. I'd like to be able to put one link in a new post instead of having to link up multiple posts...unless I'm referring to something specific of course.


Second, it's the start of the Summer Blog Social. I'm really excited to participate in that at least a couple of times (hopefully more...) since I'm feeling pretty pouty about not being able to go to BlogHer this year...*sigh* I've been at this for less than 3 months and some of ya'll already have me turning green (and not #HauteGreen, Green-eyed Monster Green!) Anyway, loving the opportunity and planning on making the most of it!

Third, I'm going to try and iron out some research and details for a Babywise post to publish next week...another Why I Hate...

Fourth, I realized that several of my last posts have been Why I (dislike)... So I'm also planning out a series of what I do like and agree with. I'd really hate to give the impression that I have too much negativity in my life. Because that is so far from the truth!

So let's recap.

Goals for the week:
Write a WBW post daily
Write a SBS post daily
Research/Draft my BW post for next week
Jot down the beginnings of some Why I Love/Like posts

Ok, ready? Split!

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17 July 2011

Stream of Consciousness Sunday ~ Diaper Biscuits



#SOCsunday
Jaron's on a strike...fun times. But while for most 8 month olds that means a nursing strike, my child decides to go on a solids strike. Yup, for 2 whole weeks he refused anything but Mama Milk.

Now this isn't really a big issue, except that he needs the calories and the extra substance in his tummy. Know how I know? I was nursing him around the clock. I love spending that time with him, but I couldn't get anything else done! It started to get more than a little crazy with him always latched on, unless he had dozed off, of curse should I even dare to try and put him down he'd wake and scream to nurse. *Sigh* but we endured and he's finally starting to eat big people food again.

I won't lie, there were definite benefits, my husband discovered the most pronounced of these this morning when he asked if I was cooking something. Nope. But on a breastmilk only diet Jaron's diapers have gone back to smelling like baked goods. Now everyone has this weird desire for fresh out of the oven biscuits....

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15 July 2011

Nursing Stories: Too Much Milk, Not Enough Babies - Oversupply and Imbalance

Today is the final post in my Nursing Stories Series, for now. The first two posts were about why I don't like Lactation Consultants and some tips and tricks for nursing with large breasts. You might also be interested in my thoughts on Nursing In Public and tutorial How to Make Your Own Nursing Bra.

NOTE
Please know that I'm not bashing Lactation Consultants as a whole, I think it's a wonderful profession and doesn't have the regard or the influence that it should have. However, I am talking about my experiences which were less than stellar. I think if there were more demand for LC services then by sheer experience the LCs I have come in contact with would have been better equipped to handle my particular problems. I hope that my negative experiences will not steer women away from using an LC, but encourage them to ask for second opinions and keep looking for answers until a problem is dealt with. I also hope that if I have problems with future children that I will not allow these experiences to keep me from asking for help.

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I was a bit naive when Jaron was born. I thought that after the tongue-tie issues with Aedyn, followed by a smooth and near perfect nursing relationship, my second breastfeeding experience would be a breeze. Boy was I wrong!

14 July 2011

Milk Booster Cookies

 These worked great for me, a little too well almost! And they are a great tasting option for boosting your milk supply! Unless the recipe says no substitutions next to a specific ingredient you can alter it to be more natural, less sugar, etc. Enjoy and let me know how it works for you!!!


Milk Booster Cookies
Makes:
12 dozen (if you make them small) - recommended to eat at least 4 a day
4-5 dozen if you do teaspoon size drops - recommended at least 2 per day

Nursing Stories: Nursing with Large Breasts

This is the second post in my Nursing Stories Series. The first part talked about Why I don't like Lactation Consultants; you might also be interested in my thoughts on Nursing In Public and a tutorial How to Make Your Own Nursing Bra.

NOTE
Please know that I'm not bashing Lactation Consultants as a whole, I think it's a wonderful profession and doesn't have the regard or the influence that it should have. However, I am talking about my experiences which were less than stellar. I think if there were more demand for LC services then by sheer experience the LCs I have come in contact with would have been better equipped to handle my particular problems. I hope that my negative experiences will not steer women away from using an LC, but encourage them to ask for second opinions and keep looking for answers until a problem is dealt with. I also hope that if I have problems with future children that I will not allow these experiences to keep me from asking for help.

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Since I wrote yesterday's post I've been trying to find the website that helped me so much. I can't. Other than remembering vaguely that it had a lavender background, I have no idea what the URL is or what search terms I used to find it. So if you know of a good site for info and tips for nursing with large breasts please comment with the link or email me!

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Leg Supported Cradle
For this hold, use your forearm to support baby's head, and support his body weight with your thighs.

Your opposite hand is free to support your breast or do other things.

As baby gets bigger (Jaron is 8.5 months in the pic) I find that it's most comfortable for both of us to let his rear sit between my legs, so one thigh supports his back and the other his legs.

This is one of my favorites, I usually have the laptop next to me and can work one handed. Or cuddle a toddler.






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